Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Global Impact: Security Tips for On-Line Dating

A gang-rape victim, 28 years of age, who flew to Sydney from New Zealand and chose to rendezvous with a man she met on an-online dating site, strangely invited his friends to join them while the pair were socializing at a bar, later resulting in the woman's gang-rape on an on-line dating site called Tinder:


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A gang-rape victim, 28 years of age, who flew to Sydney from New Zealand and chose to rendezvous with a man she met on an-online dating site known as Tinder, strangely invited his friends to join them while the pair was socializing at a bar, later resulting in the woman's gang-rape by a number of assailants. 

The unidentified 28-year-old woman flew to Sydney from New Zealand for business when she met up with a man that she had met on the app on Saturday night (October 4), according to The Sydney Morning Herald.

The victim met the man at a restaurant in Kings Cross, and they later went to a bar on Martin Place, where several of male friends showed up, authorities said.“Later on that night, the woman began to feel dizzy and numb and lost her bearings,” a police spokesman said.

COMMENT: After the horrifying experience the victim was forced to endure, after telling her co-workers about what happened, she was urged to call Australian police.

The distraught woman was treated at an Australian hospital on Monday (October 6), although all rape victims are urged to visit the nearest Emergency Room IMMEDIATELY in an effort to  collect forensic evidence.

Australian police have also dealt with another case of sexual assault that resulted from a Tinder date gone wrong--a man was charged with murdering a New Zealand tourist he met through the app in August.  In actuality, a New Zealander who met a man in Australia later fell from a high-risk apartment building:

http://stayingsafeabroad.blogspot.com/2014/08/australia-new-zealander-fell-to-her  


The vast majority of people who use dating websites and apps do so very often for the right reasons, yet users of such sites are strongly urged to be cautious and suspicious.

As a result of continuing on-line encounters that fail to go particularly well,  I offer her readers who utilize on-line dating sites to consider the following:

1.  There is nothing wrong in conveying to your FIRST in-person date that caution is urged for both genders as both parties are essentially strangers;

2.  Have a personal policy of meeting strangers ONLY in public places for the first three to five dates;

3. ELIMINATE the thought that you might become intimate on a first in-person date can only be described as HIGH-RISK activity;

4.  On first in-person dates ask a series of questions that prompt open-ended responses: 
a. Where your date was raised and educated?  Be specific as possible;
b. Where your date is now living;
c. Preferred activities to enjoy and participate in;
d. What types of activities you dislike;
e. University attendance and majors; and
f.  Military or government service;

5. Specifically ask what type of relationship you are looking for?
Note: If you're looking for a long-term, lasting relationship and don't receive the response you're looking for,  you may choose to "move on";

6.  Regardless of whether you plan to see the person you're meeting, always ask for a phone number and  email address;

7.  I know that I've already covered this, but RESIST the temptation to meet a first date at their home. Doing so can only be described as high-risk; 

8. Remember that on first-dates, EVERYONE is putting their best foot forward; 

9. All people have "issues, quirks and "idiosyncrasies." It takes time to identify the peculiarities that we all have; and

10. Select dating sites that are mainstream and NOT sexually explicit. Such sites are fraught with being HIGH-RISK.



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